The internet and technology have totally changed sex and relationships, we know you — you adults, anyway, this column is not for children! — have questions about the world of sex. In order to answer them, we’ve asked our friend Stoya — a professional sex-haver — to field any inquiries. You can write to her at askstoya@theverge.com and we may publish your letter.
I’m interested in learning what are simple, natural and pill-free solutions that can provide higher sexual stamina for men — both short term and long term. On the TV, the pornstars seem to be able to perform for a much longer time with more energy than in real life. How do they do it? Is it possible for normal men to achieve similar stamina with any natural stuff / habits?
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Before we get started, can we talk about how your email almost got deleted without being read because “Simple and pill-free solutions for higher sexual stamina for men” sounds like spam? It sounds like spam. And also like a scam. Moving on: I have absolutely zero recommendations for creams, pills, potions, gizmos, or gadgets that will make you last longer in bed or increase your stamina. What I do have is the flu. And also a need to debunk the idea of pornography as an appropriate place to learn about sex.
Pornographic videos are not documentaries. They are not an acceptable substitute for sex ed. Unfortunately, without widespread access to acceptable sexual education, people seem to be trying to use explicit entertainment as a replacement.
Stop doing that.
The lack of functional sex ed — and this tendency to try to learn from porn videos instead — leaves inexperienced people cobbling together bits of rumor and snippets of video in an attempt to understand the mechanics of sex. Which sucks for everyone.
