Shibari Bondage Sex Act Ends In Death

Sep 18, 2011
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by: Barbie Latza Nadeau
Source: The Daily Beast

An Italian man is on trial for the death of his girlfriend during a Japanese bondage scene. Barbie Latza Nadeau on what happens during ‘Shibari’—and why extreme sex is on the rise.

Apparently monogamous sex gets tedious even when you’re tied up with rope.

Italian engineer Soter Mule, 42, and his girlfriend Paola Caputo, 24, were avid practitioners of Shibari, an ancient Japanese erotic art. More refined than your typical night of bondage, Shibari involves the use of thin pieces of rope to bind the submissive partner in ways that are meant to be both artistically beautiful and also heighten the sensation of his or her orgasm.

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But last Saturday night, the couple was looking to spice things up even more. They met up with a friend of Caputo’s at a local pub in Rome and, after drinking heavily and smoking hashish, the three headed to the parking garage where Caputo worked as daytime attendant. The dimly lit space was closed and desolate, the perfect setting for a kinky sex act. Mule strung the two women, with their consent and help, from a rafter with strategically placed soft ropes. He used their weight to counterbalance them, each with one foot on the ground. When one woman moved, it tightened the ropes and intensified the sensation for the other, and vice versa.

Everything was fine until the less-experienced woman fainted. The force of her sudden dead weight quickly lifted and strangled Caputo, even though Mule quickly tried to cut his girlfriend free. She died of asphyxiation, and the couple’s new friend nearly suffered the same fate. Mule was arrested and charged with involuntary manslaughter, and later released on house arrest.

In detailed testimony to the arraigning judge on Wednesday, Mule described how extreme sex like Shibari involves total control. He explained how he alternately teased and penetrated the women for maximum pleasure. He admitted that he made a mistake by not cutting Caputo from her bondage ropes sooner, but insisted that the extreme sex was consensual. “No one forced anyone,” he told the court. “Paola and her friend consented, but I was the master and I ultimately made the fatal mistake. I should have had the knife closer, as they suggest when practicing this type of bondage. By the time I found it, it was too late.”

When police searched Mule’s apartment, they found a cache of sex toys, bondage ropes, and albums of photos he had taken of women bound in various contortions. His computer was filled with content suggesting sexual deviancy or erotic artistry, depending on your point of view. Nothing Mule did was illegal. The surviving friend, still recovering in the hospital, backed up his version of events. There were no minors involved, and sadomasochism is not a crime in Italy.

Mule was an active member of several BDSM (bondage, discipline, submission, masochism) websites and posted frequently under the moniker Kinbaku, the name used for Shibari in the 15th century when its use was first recorded. Many of his followers looked to him for advice on how to practice Shibari. “He was considered an expert,” one friend of Mule’s told the ANSA news agency. “When practicing this kind of extreme sex everything has to be controlled, and he was well aware of that.”

Caputo’s death has since opened up a steamy debate in Italy, which has some of the highest numbers of extreme-sex aficionados in Europe, according to a poll by La Repubblica newspaper. Not to be confused with sexual predators who attack their victims, extreme-sex participants engage in risky, mutually consensual sex that they know could kill them if something goes wrong. One in 10 Italian couples practice “extreme sex,” which is defined as sex that could put one partner’s life at risk—and even those who aren’t doing things that could end in death are still risqué. Sixteen percent of Italian couples use masks and forms of bondage, and 5 percent admit to regularly engaging in mild sadomasochistic practices. Over half use erotic props in their usual sexual rapport. Just under 3 percent of the population has had sex with more than one person at a time, and slightly less than that have had group sex involving three or more partners.

Ayzad (he goes by only one name), author of A Guide to Extreme Eroticism published last year in Milan, told The Daily Beast that sexual extremism is a growing phenomenon across the globe primarily because of the Internet, which hosts thousands of websites and message boards where fetish fanatics can post their ideas and learn how to fulfill the most fringe erotic fantasies.

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Esinem
Esinem
9 years ago

Shibari is the eroticised bastard child of hojojutsu, a martial art of fighting and capuring with rope. Hojojutsu dates back about 400 years but, AFAIK, kinbaku was coined in the 50’s. We can only trace shibari back around 100 years as an erotic art but my guess is that rope started being used for play long before. This tragedy was the result of breath play aka erotic asphyxiation not shibari. In simple terms, shibari=Japanese bondage, kinbaku=shibari + tying in a way that creates an emotional exchange, not merely for restraint. The photo above is not what I would call shibari,… Read more »

NCD
NCD
9 years ago

REPORTERS: PLEASE educate yourselves in the basics, at the very least, before even trying to write anything more on this subject. The stories that are out now are written by people who have no idea what they’re talking about, mislead readers who trust that the author is writing an accurate story and, lastly, they’re really infuriating those who participate in these things, who feel as if they’re being lied about by the media just to make money. Honestly, those of us who are emotionally mature enough to embrace imaginative sex and actually take the time to (gasp) educate ourselves by… Read more »

Bill Foltz
Bill Foltz
9 years ago
Reply to  TRPWL

Stating you don’t have time to research , just proves that you should not be reprinting the story, and thus condoning what is in the “news article” . It is irresponsible to publish non factual information in the web or anywhere else, unless you post a disclaimer along with the article stating that it was not researched. Your nickname here suggests that you do not understand BDSM at all , let alone the art of shibari bondage. BDSM goes far beyond sex and porn , BDSM porn sites do BDSM people a big injustice in their portrayal of BDSM Thank… Read more »

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