David Prosen, a therapist with a MA in Counseling and member of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) and the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), published an article entitled “I am not Gay…I am David.” A copy of his article is available at www.cuf.org/2011/01/i-am-not-gay-i-am-david/
The article makes an important distinction. Defining oneself as “gay” or “lesbian” is taking on a false identity. It insinuates a type of person equivalent to male or female. A person may have a same sex attraction, but is not something other than male or female. We do not identify ourselves by our sexual behavior anymore than we do by other behaviors. I play golf. That is an activity that I participate in but to call me a golfer is to overlook who I am as a person.
The Gay agenda has created a class of people defined by their sexual behavior. They seek affirmation based upon that lifestyle choice. When anyone points out that the behavior is immoral, they cry discrimination. They seek to make their lifestyle normal. Our laws protected the rights of people, forbidding discrimination on the basis of sex. Now they are re-writing the laws to forbid discrimination based what sexual acts they practice.
In many ways the debate is over what terms we use. Those who choose the language set the limits of the debate. By making it appear to be an identity, they can claim prejudice against their person. If the debate changes focus to questions about behavior, then we get a different debate. By insinuating that there is a “gay” identity, they reinforce untruths and promote their agenda.
In the Jewish-Christian scriptures we are taught God made us male and female. Human gender is limited to those two genders. The two genders are complimentary. There is a natural order to creation. Sin has led to distortions in that plan and scripture describes as abnormal same sex intercourse. In order for a Christian to justify homosexual behavior, he or she must ignore or explain away the words of Scripture.
Same sex attraction is not a sin. It does not define a person. There are challenges to be overcome. Everyone is called to live a life of chastity. In marriage that chastity means exclusivity and a willingness to sacrifice one’s own pleasure for the sake of the other. For singles, that means abstaining from sexual behavior. It does not mean having no relationships. A chaste relationship can be intimate and loving. A male to male relationship or a female to female relationship can be healthy and wholesome without becoming sexually expressed.