Belle Knox: Enjoying Rough Sex Doesn’t Make Me A Bad Feminist

Belle Knox: Enjoying Rough Sex Doesn’t Make Me A Bad Feminist

The Duke University student and adult performer opines about consent, slut-shaming and feminism at xoJane

Life is neither black nor white when it comes to sex.

We play around with roles and identities while we are working out issues that are long buried in our subconscious. I’m an ambitious young woman.I’m a student at Duke. I’m a slut who needs to be punished.

Can you guess which one of those is a role?

Belle Knox is not ashamed to say she loves rough sex

Ever since I was a child, I’ve had some masochistic tendencies. When I was a young girl and my friend and I would play house, I would ask her to lock me in her dog cage. I was not fully aware of it, but it physically and mentally aroused me. I didn’t know why, but I liked it. Suddenly, I found myself in an entirely different role. I felt for the first time what it was like to be helpless and trapped. It was exciting. It was different.

I can’t explain why rough sex and pain arouses me; it just does.

Before I had a legitimate porn agent, I heard about a website that paid well but was psychologically extreme. (I don’t want to give them any more publicity by using their name.)

I could handle it, I thought.

Honestly, when I arrived at the small studio in New York where I filmed my scene for a few hours — and after I signed away all my rights to claim any subsequent trauma that might arise from filming the scene — I thought that my decision to do a scene with this notoriously rough sex web site was daring, bad-ass, even subversive.

For me, it was an experiment of going to yet another scary sexual place — except I was in control, I was calling the shots and the safe words, and I was the one choosing to do something so psychologically and physically extreme, rather than someone taking advantage of me.

I love rough sex — and I can do this. That’s what I saw the choice as being.

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7 Responses to "Belle Knox: Enjoying Rough Sex Doesn’t Make Me A Bad Feminist"

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  3. Ernest Greene   March 18, 2014 2:17 pm at 2:17 PM

    Courageously put and well articulated. It will be interesting to see how her statements will be dismissed by the crowd that firmly believes no woman can give informed consent to such activities. She’s obviously a victim of patriarchal programming, pimp manipulation or PTSD from childhood trauma.

    Isn’t it interesting how a movement that started out to be all about women taking control of their own lives and their own persons has evolved into a cabal of crazies who insist that this is only possible after swallowing whole the nonsensical ideology that movement has ginned up around the question of consent, as I mentioned re Gail Dines and abortion recently.

    Seems to me Belle Knox has come a long way in the right direction and the other side has retreated a long way in the wrong direction.

     
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  4. crunkleschwitz   March 18, 2014 4:01 pm at 4:01 PM

    She already regrets that scene? Is there an over/under on how long until she becomes an anti-porn crusader? Is 10days after the bookings dry up a valid guess or do I need an actual date?

    You can tell 30 seconds into her scene that she was out of her element and likely had the idea that “rough sex” was a spank and a tug on her hair. I’ll never understand why these whores don’t check out the websites prior to OKing a booking.

    That said, the backlash she got really displays that many feminists are a sham. “Don’t be what the Patriarchy wants you to be, and certainly don’t be yourself. Be what we tell you to be.” Farce.

     
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    • Anthony Kennerson   March 19, 2014 7:20 am at 7:20 AM

      Re-read that, Crunk…..Belle is saying that she would not do that particular scene with that particular site again, not that she’s repudiating kink as a whole.

      What I find heartening most of all about Belle is the fact that she is so willing and so honest about establishing her boundaries, and also challenging herself to adjust them. She’s not letting one bad experience tarnish her mission or her core beliefs on sexuality or porn.

      Plus, there are plenty of porn performers who experiment with kink, and find out it’s not quite for them, and move on to greener porn pastures. And who knows….in a few years, Belle might reappraise herself and take another dip, and may even like it. Kink’s not for everyone, you know.

       
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